There is no sick leave for carers


As a carer, you quickly realise that ‘duvet days’ are a thing of the past. You have to be there no matter how you feel. When illness first strikes a member of your family there is so much to learn, everything from a new medical language to how to wash, dress and feed someone else. At first, it all happens so fast that there simply isn’t time to look after our own health in the maze of hospitals and rehab centres. Then, when we bring our loved one home, there may be a tremendous silence as we leave the busyness of the hospital wards. Many of us feel that we are supposed to know how to cope. Growing up, we  learn how to live and work with other people, or how to be a parent or a friend, but there is usually nothing to prepare us for being a carer. Author: