… it’s OK to seek a second opinion. Irish medicine is not as advanced or liberal as some of our international counterparts. Seek a second opinion before it’s too late.
… it’s OK to ask for and accept help. Even if you think you are wonder woman, you cannot be everything to everyone anymore. If a friend wants to cook for your family or sit with your loved one, let them. This is not a slight on your ability. If you don’t accept help when it is offered, it may not be offered again.
… if anyone involved with the care of your loved one is not up to scratch, don’t be afraid to ask for a replacement. Unfortunately, not everyone in the health care industry is there because they love what they do. There are some awful so-called professionals and you must ensure that your loved one is treated with dignity and respect at all times. If in doubt, sit in with the nurse/carer, etc. to make sure that things are done the way you want. For example, patients should not be washed with harsh toilet tissue instead of their own facecloth; patients should not be left unattended in a bath if they are unable to hoist themselves out, etc.
… you should talk to your loved one before it’s too late. We all go into ‘doing’ mode when something goes wrong and often we forget to tell the patient what’s going on. But more than that
… if the person is still compos mentis, you may want to talk to them about their care (by Jenni Harrison).